Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Goodbye China!!!


We spent our last day in China getting Eisley's visa to come into the United States, finalizing paperwork and doing a little shopping, playing and packing. It was a beautiful day and I can't believe our time here is done. I am dreading the 29 hours that will start tomorrow morning at 5:00 am, but I am excited to go home and see Jon and the kids, I have missed them so much and am looking forward to some normalcy, even though it will be a new normal! I am feeling a little inadequate because 2 weeks isn't long enough to learn enough to teach my daughter about her homeland. I feel as though I have barely scratched the surface. But I do know this, parents love their children here. They take good care of them, they love babies and they are good to their families. The Chinese people are soft spoken, they are quiet and they are happy for the most part, that I can tell. They honor traditions, they are fiercely loyal to their country and each other. The amount of people here is really baffling, these cities are huge, the high rise apartments and skyscrapers never seem to end, the pollution is bad and everyone smokes, but even right in downtown there are little gardens and trees and parks. There are street sweepers whose only job is to keep the streets and sidewalks clean. The shopping centers are intimidating and huge. The restaurants are so different than back at home. The waiters and waitresses hover over you the entire meal, they don't bring the check till you ask for it, you eat off of very small plates and have to ask for utensils and napkins. The meat is in very very small pieces with tiny bones in it., and there are lots and lots of very very unique menu items. Whole duck, goose legs and feet, jellyfish and abelone, pork ankles and feet, squid, snails, hairy crab, every fish, sea cucumbers, star fruit, dragon fruit and lots and lots and lots of others. People do their best to speak English, which is pretty amazing because we sure can't speak Chinese, some of their translations of things are pretty funny, but they try their best! They are very meticulous about money and count each bill and make sure it is in good condition and read all the tracking numbers on each bill. They are crazy drivers, literally crazy. They are not a wealthy people, even though the country is very very wealthy, the actual citizens as a whole seem pretty poor. The apartments are small, everything is small. The garbage is taken away by a small cart driven by a man on a bike. People put all sorts of things on carts behind bikes, huge boxes, crates, food, children, it's quite interesting to see. The country side is beautiful and also very clean, with huge mountains and lots of trees and in this area (Guangzhou) it is almost like a rainforest in some areas. There is lots of culture, zoo's, aquariums, parks, theaters, places to eat. We didn't see any schools, and I wish we had, we did see lots of kids playing a little hacky sack game and some basketball. We can't drink the water or eat the food that has been washed in it, so we have been boiling water for Eisley's bottle and drinking lots of bottled water, and using it to brush our teeth. They sprayed for fleas on the flight coming from America, which we thought was very interesting. I think they think we are dirty, but they are very nice to us and I think have misconceptions of what we are doing. Today while we were shopping we had lots of store owners give Eisley little gifts, and they kept saying thank you (xien xien) to me, I feel like it should be me saying thank you, it is a privilege to be able to raise her in a place that she will be free and happy. I did so much research and reading before I came, I tried to think of the history of China and why it is the way it is, I tried to understand why people do the things they do here, live the way they live, believe the way they do. I think it's interesting how much they believe in traditions like rubbing a Buddha's belly or a snakes head or wearing jade or giving jade away or eating certain foods or being born in a certain year or wearing a certain color, all these things they believe will give good luck. They are a people who need faith, who need hope, who need a knowledge of something more. I can't help them all, I will help one. And she will help her children, and their children and their children. In some small way, I hope to make a difference. What an amazing and overwhelming opportunity!
There are so many things I want to teach her, so many things I hope I never forget, so many things I have yet to learn. Now she is coming home. Hopefully someday she'll be able to come back. Maybe her spirit will remember and feel welcome here. I have felt welcome here, I feel like these people are in a small way part of my family and ancestory now too. I will honor that heritage, I will teach Eisley to be proud of her Chinese background, I will always remember her little flower bed where my sweet little Yin Lan was found in
Zhengzhou, I will never forget. I will make sure she never forgets. Goodbye China, thank you for your priceless gift. I can never repay you, but I will honor you forever.

3 comments:

Gwen said...

Wow, that time really did fly by! Will be praying that you have a good day of traveling tomorrow. :)

Laura said...

Cathi, I loved Guangzhou. It was under construction when we were there, but I have a picture of Lily by the same statues that you have pictures of with Eisley. It brings back so many memories. I just wanted to say Welcome Home and thanks for sharing your experiences with us.

The Jacklins said...

Congratulations on EVERYTHING!!! I am so happy for you and your family!! :)